Get dangerous.

Get dangerously consistent. 

Terrifyingly consistent. 

Get so consistent with your trauma Recovery Supporting Rituals (RSR’s) that people wonder what your deal is. 

Here’s the thing: sustainable trauma recovery is going to ask you to do things on a regular basis that the normies aren’t even going to comprehend. 

Trauma recovery makes us survivors get clear about our values, goals, and habits in ways they will never understand. 

Understand, we shouldn’t “have” to think about any of this. It sucks that we do. 

But the fact that we do have to think about trauma recovery in order to stay alive and function, means we wizards have to get real about sh*t that the muggles never do. 

Trauma recovery is not just about processing trauma or coping with trauma symptoms. 

It is ultimately about connecting with and developing and amplifying our authenticity. 

Becoming who we really are. Rediscovering— or maybe just discovering— who we were meant to be underneath all of this. 

That’s going to require courage— and discipline. 

Which is where the terrifying consistency comes in. 

Do you know how few people out there in the world actually set and work toward goals in any consistent way? 

Most of the people you and I meet in the course of a day are on cruise control. They haven’t truly thought about who they are or what they want— maybe ever. 

It’s one of the main reasons why so many people out there are so miserable— no trauma required, even. 

Trauma recovery is going to ask us to be unlike them. 

If we want trauma recovery to be realistic and sustainable— if we want it to be more than an abstraction we read about on the internet— we’re going to have to do things most people can’t, or at least won’t. 

We’re going to have to be consistent. 

Consistent in checking in with ourselves. 

Consistent in talking to ourselves like a supportive, realistic coach— not like a drill sergeant. 

Consistent in feeding and hydrating ourselves in ways that actually support our functioning. 

Consistent in reality testing the bullsh*t the culture throws our way, instead of swallowing wholesale. 

Consistent in defining and working toward our recovery goals in realistic segments, every day, every hour. 

The kind of consistency trauma recovery demands of us is not always easy. Especially if you’re like me, and you have a brain that gets enamored of shiny objects. 

But there really is no substitute for consistency. 

Dangerous consistency. Terrifying consistency. Consistency that the normies cannot wrap their heads around. 

Work your recovery like you’re obsessed. 

(You and I are trauma survivors, we f*cking KNOW what obsession looks and feels like.)