Many everyday trauma recovery wins don’t have anything obvious to do with trauma.
I was taught how to do this work by some of the most famous trauma therapists in the world, and they never taught me that.
Many people think trauma recovery is all about processing memories and managing symptoms, and it is, at various times.
But it’s also about ten minutes of cleaning your space.
Hell, two minutes of cleaning your space.
It’s about checking your bank balance every day.
It’s about eating when you’re hungry— and knowing the differences between hungry, and bored, and anxious.
It’s about asking for help when you need it— and accepting help.
None of that is easy.
And all of it matters to your trauma recovery.
I strongly, strongly believe that trauma recovery involves a whole lot of life management.
We just don’t recover when we’re overwhelmed by the daily stuff— and the daily stuff is often the stuff we’re most reluctant to address or ask for help with.
After all, we “should” be able to “adult,” right?
Meh. As with most things in trauma recovery— and life— it’s not that simple.
As you design your trauma recovery blueprint, start with the everyday life stuff.
Start with the “adulting” stuff you’ve been putting off and that you struggle with.
Above all, I want your trauma recovery to be realistic and sustainable— and NO work you do on your trauma is going to “stick” if life is kicking your ass.
So: start simple. Start basic.
Start at the very bottom of Maslow’s hierarchy, way the hell away from your trauma symptoms and memories.
Yeah, trauma recovery is probably going to ask you to engage with those.
But not now. Not today.
Today, let’s clean your room for ten minutes.
This is realistically how we make recovery happen.
This is how we win.
Breathe; blink; focus.
Use Your Damn Skills 