They’re going to tell you to “suck it up.”
They don’t get it.
They’re going to question whether it was actually “trauma.”
They don’t get it.
They’re going to roll their eyes at some things you express.
They don’t get it.
They’re going to be impatient with some things you need.
They don’t get it.
They’re going to tell you you need “tough love.”
They don’t get it.
They’re going to tell you “everyone has trauma.”
They don’t get it.
They’re going to tell you trauma is not an “excuse” for under functioning.
They don’t get it.
Not only do they not get it— they don’t realize that all that stupid sh*t they say to minimize or belittle, is all sh*t we’ve said to ourselves.
If that sh*t worked, it would have worked by now.
But it doesn’t, because it fundamentally misunderstands post traumatic and dissociative injuries.
We who struggle with post traumatic an dissociative injuries, and who work our recovery one day at a time? We are not looking for “excuses.”
We are seeking— creating, actually— workable ways of existing in the world, DESPITE what we’ve endured and what we are enduring.
We don’t love our trauma any more than you love hearing about our trauma.
And, for what it’s worth, our recovery isn’t actually about our trauma.
Our recovery is about our values.
Our hopes.
Our personhood.
Our recovery is about putting our trauma in its appropriate place in our life story— not minimized, not exaggerated.
They don’t get it.
Why would they?
Don’t attach your self-esteem to what they do or don’t get.
Our recovery is not predicated on ANYONE getting it.
Especially not anyone who leads with dumbass statements like “suck it up.”
Use Your Damn Skills 